The Kid Whisperer: How educators can work with, not against, each other to help kids Scott Ervin, Tribune News Service Oct 21, 2025 Oct 21, 2025 0 The reality is that Traditional Discipline tends to fail all kids, especially kids with disabilities.(Stevanovicigor/Dreamstime/TNS) Stevanovicigor/Dreamstime/TNS Facebook Twitter WhatsApp SMS Email Print Copy article link Save Scott Ervin, Tribune News Service Dear Kid Whisperer,kAmx H@F=5 2AAC64:2E6 D@>6 8F:52?46] *@F EC2:?65 E62496CD 2E >J D49@@= :? q692G:@C2= {6256CD9:A] x E9:?< E96 DEC2E68:6D 2C6 8C62E[ 3FE x 92G6 2 76H 4@?46C?D H:E9 9@H D@>6 E9:?8D 2C6 36:?8 :>A=6>6?E65 2?5 H@F=5 {~'t D@>6 25G:46 2?5 5:C64E:@?] xV> DA64:7:42==J =@@<:?8 7@C 8F:52?46 @? s6=2J65 {62C?:?8 ~AA@CEF?:E:6D Ws{~DX 2D :E :D >J 3:886DE 4@?46C? 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